How frustrating people are helping you be happy + ...

How frustrating people are helping you be happy + well

Growing up, I was the type of kid that knocked on wood, threw salt over my shoulder, refused to walk under ladders and handled mirrors with extreme caution. I believed that people and animals were crazier on the full moon, that seven year’s of bad luck was real and that things always came in threes.

This superstitious behaviour was partly inherited (thanks, Mum), partly fuelled by my love of fantasy and supernatural novels and wholeheartedly incorporated into every area of my life.

Today, I’ve grown out of most of my superstitious behaviours (I still won’t walk under a ladder) but I do agree with one thing from my childhood: things really do come in threes.  

Or, more accurately, things happen – and keep happening – until you get it.

 The ‘it’ might be a lesson. A sign. A blessing. A change. A push, nudge, shove from the universe. Whatever it may be, it will continue to be, until you get it.

Sound confusing? Let me share an anecdote.

The frustrating people that helped me be happy + well.

Lately, the universe has sent more than a few challenging people my way and I was given a choice: I could get frustrated – and hurt – by what was happening. Or, I could dive in and choose to embrace it. 

For me, my it was nicely summed up by one of my favourite bloggers, Free + Native:  

“Manifestation is not about thinking positively or being positive. It is not about being in the vortex. It is not about being happy all the time. Manifestation is literally about: what you believe you are, worth, and deserve, is what you will be, have, and receive.”

I recommend reading the full article here. It’s pretty fab.

 Boom. Just like that, everything clicked into place.

What I believed I was worth, and deserved, was what I was getting.

And at the heart of my hurt and pain was the idea that people weren’t valuing me. Weren’t valuing me, my time, my services, my love, my worth … All of it. They weren’t valuing me.

When I took a step back, I realised that it wasn’t them not valuing me, it was ME not valuing me. For if I had valued myself enough in the first place, I wouldn’t have been in any of these situations. But because that hadn’t clicked yet – and because my self-love journey will always be a work in progress – I kept encountering the same challenging situations, the same frustrating people, over and over again.

But once this clicked, all of the anxiety and hurt that I’d been harbouring disappeared. It was no longer about them and their actions, it became about me and my actions.

And while I have a long way to go, I’ve now renewed my commitment to believe in my worth – and value – unconditionally. To love myself unconditionally. And to be the best version of me possible.

But back to you (because that’s what this is really about).

How you can spot it.

Maybe you are feeling hurt and frustrated because people keep letting you down. Or maybe you keep getting stuck in bad jobs. Or keep getting bad haircuts. Or keep missing out on projects or clients that you’d love.

The key word here is KEEP.

If there’s something in your life that keeps happening, this is your it. Your sign. Your message. Your lesson. Your blessing. Your opportunity to learn more about yourself and to journey deeper down the rabbit hole towards a happy + well life.

If it keeps happening, it’s your it.

And once you’ve identified it, there’s really only one thing to do: embrace it. 

Because at the end of the day, you can really put everything in life into two categories: lessons and blessings. And both of those things have the potential to nurture, nourish and enlighten your life.

So here’s to the frustrating people – and situations – that challenge us to be present, mindful and brave enough to become who we are truly meant to be.

 For more enlightenment and self-care, don’t forget to check out our Truth or Dare Self-Discovery + Happiness Game!


Cassandra Lane

Cassandra Lane is the happy founder of Happy + Well Academy and the Editor-in-Chief of Happiness + Wellbeing Magazine.

Cass also owns and runs Wild Spirit Co., a creative copywriting (which is just fancy word for ‘writing’) agency devoted to helping soulful small businesses, entrepreneurs and start-ups communicate their brand with confidence. You can hire her for website copywriting, eBook copywriting and editing, sales page copywriting, article writing, blogging, editing, proofreading and more. Visit her site at

A quintessential daydreamer with a penchant for cloud-watching, reading, yoga, hula-hooping and crisp, mountain air (or really, nature of any kind, but mountain air sounded way cooler), she can usually be found with a book in one hand and a journal in the other. The pen, of course, will be tucked behind her ear at some stage and quickly forgotten as she floats through the rest of her day.

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  1. Carley

    13 July

    I LOVE THIS – Because at the end of the day, you can really put everything in life into two categories: lessons and blessings. And both of those things have the potential to nurture, nourish and enlighten your life.

    Thank you for sharing!


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