There are times when you want to wallow. To sink, undisturbed, into your pain and soak in the negativity for as long as possible.
But there are other times when you really, really don’t want to be in a bad mood. You’ve got places to go, people to woo and sights to see. And zero time to mess around feeling crappy.
It is during these times that this short and sweet guide can be your ally.
How to talk yourself out of a bad mood
Be honest with yourself
“Most men would rather deny a hard truth than face it.” ― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones.
We all have our individual emotional triggers. Whether it is feeling unheard, or believing that somebody is being disrespectful, there are certain things that have the tendency to really get under our skin.
What are your triggers? What are you hiding from? What is it, exactly, that has upset you? Why?
Explore these questions and get honest with yourself. Pain, just as much as pleasure and joy, is an opportunity for self-discovery and growth.
Understanding and acknowledging your triggers will come in valuable when you find yourself ‘activated’. It may also help you to – with love – release and let go of your pain.
Feel your feelings
“The best way out is always through.” ― Robert Frost
Okay, here’s a game changer: we want you to give yourself between five and ten minutes to wallow.
Sometimes our bad moods linger for longer – and deeper – than they should because there is a part of us that is ignoring our true feelings.
Which is why, if you’re angry, feel angry. If you’re sad, feel sad. Give yourself permission to feel whatever it is that you’re feeling. For five minutes. Then, dust yourself off and prepare to move on.
Bonus tip: Feel your feelings while getting physical. Head to the gym, go for a walk or a jog and imagine that you’re sweating out your feelings.
You won’t get more until you appreciate what you have
“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.” ― Epicurus
Okay, let’s be real: when you’re in a bad mood, forcing yourself to think about how there are people out there worse off than you probably isn’t going to help. In fact, likely, it’ll just make you feel worse because you’ll then feel guilty for feeling bad in the first place. Ugh.
So, instead, we want you to think about the blessings in your life. And yes, it will still be a struggle. Because when you’re in a bad mood, one of the hardest things to do is to sit back and sing pretty about all of the magical parts of your life. But … try. Because we strongly believe that to enjoy a happy + well life, you must appreciate what you currently have. And the antithesis? Feeling sad, mad and all around crabby about all of the things that you don’t have.
And if you’re still in a bad mood … that’s okay
“I could see that, if not actually disgruntled, he was far from being gruntled.” ― P.G. Wodehouse, The Code of the Woosters
It is normal, natural and wholeheartedly human to feel negative emotions. Expect it. Accept it. And know that even during the tough moments, you’re still you (and that’s a great thing). Because while positivity is great, we are all works in progress. And at the end of the day, we are all doing the best we can. Bad moods and all.
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